Valentines Day – Singleness and Ashamed

Happy Valentines Day to the single girl!!

In a society where singleness has been looked upon — calling you weak, alone, and unworthy — I am so sorry. To the single girl reading this, you are not alone and you should never have to think that being single makes you any less worthy.

A friend texted me, “I hate being single. I see the couples at school and it makes me want that. Is it weird that been single for so long?” 

I responded, “Of course not! God is using this season to teach you about Him.” I said the right thing, or at least I thought I did. But I think many girls can relate to this.

There are a few things we can learn from this season:

Singleness is good – The apostle Paul in 1 Corinthians 7:8 says, “To the unmarried and the widows I say that is good to remain single as I am. There you have it. The Bible says that singleness is good.

God wants Him to be our first love – If we don’t know God, we do not know love. And therefore, we cannot love. (1 John 4:7-16) You need to know God before you can love someone else. So, during this season, seek God. Get to know Him, who he is, how he loves.

Another friend of mine texted me, “I hate being single. I have been desiring a boyfriend for a while now. If God really loves me then why hasn’t he given me the desires of my heart?”

WOW!! Me too, girl!! I think a lot of us can relate.

God loves to give us the desires of our heart. Psalm 37:4 says, “Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.”

Just because you are single or are not married yet doesn’t mean that God doesn’t hear your desires!! Because he does! He doesn’t withhold you from your dreams and hopes. That is not who he is. He wants you to take delight in him, seek him, know him, and when he is ready he will deliver.

Another girl I talked to said, “Being single makes me feel so ashamed. I feel like I am not good enough which is why no boy would ever want me. It sucks feeling so unworthy.” 

Again, WOW! I think this is another thing all single gals can relate to.

The world will constantly yell at us when we are single telling us:

I am not worthy. 

I am not pretty enough. 

I am not interesting enough. 

I am not smart enough. 

I am behind. 

I am not enough. 

However, that is a lie. You are worthy. You are pretty enough. You are interesting enough. You are smart enough. You are enough.

So to the single girl reading this,

You are fiercely loved. You have absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. You are worthy.

I know singleness is not always an easy thing. He hears the thoughts in your head when you see a couple walking by, he hears the late night cries because you wish you had a boy to talk to, he knows your fears of being single forever. But he WANTS to know you. He doesn’t withhold good from you. And he will give you a guy when its the right time.

Singleness is good because God is good.




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